13 The Unpopular Nature of Men by Women - The wives or the women are human beings who also have the right to not like men because some of the Sifa-nature. Therefore men should not be selfish, and it feels right. But also should pay attention to him, so he could really come across as a good person. Both in the eyes of God, no matter whether in the human eye, especially in the eyes of his wife. Remember that the wife is the closest friend, not just in the world but up in heaven. That's why consider the following properties which are generally very unpopular by the wives or the women. May be useful.
Each of the women longed for a husband who has a clear vision of life. That life is created not merely to live. But there are noble goals. In the opening surah An Nisa ': 1 God Almighty. He will say: "O mankind, fear your Lord who created you from a single self, and from it God created his wife, and God hath dispersed than both men and women that much. And fear Allah, that the (use) his name you ask one another mutually, and (guard) silaturrahim relationship. Verily, Allah always watches over you ". In this verse Allah clearly explains that the goal of married life is to fear Allah. Piety in the sense meant to obey Him. What does God forbid actually shunned. And what God is obeyed.
But a lot happens now, is that many of the men or their husband to cover up the disobedience. The wife is not considered important. Sin by sin done outside the home with no fear of God. Remember that every sin there must be compensation. If you are not sure in the next world. It's not a few households that were destroyed because of the courage of the husband's sin. Yet in the Prophet's marriage problems. said: "Marriage is half of religion, therefore fear the remaining half."
In a memoir it is said that woman was created from a crooked rib. This suggests that the nature of women is not the same as the nature of men. Hence the Prophet. explained that if women are forced to become like men Tulung ribs will be broken. And breakage means talaknya. From this it appears that women have a nature like is always protected. Not treated roughly. So God commanded the husbands in particular to address the wives with gentleness: Wa'aasyiruuhunna bil ma'ruuf (And sikapilah wives with good treatment) An Nisa: 19. Notice that this verse describes the attitude of a good husband is not that being rude, but a soft and protecting his wife.
Many of the husbands who considers his wife as a cash cow. He slaughtered and abused at will. Without the slightest mercy. Just because a stronger body and struck his wife at will. Remember that the wives are also human. God's creation. To the animals we have compassion, especially to humans. The Prophet once described someone who is in hell because menyikas a cat, let alone torture a human being independent.
Arrogant is the nature of Satan. Satan is God's curse for his arrogance. Minal wakaana wastakbara Abaa kaafiriin (Al-Baqarah: 34). No one has the right mahlukpun proud, because pride is just right priogatif God. Allah says in the hadeeth Qurdsi: "Pride is selendangku, who compete with me, will I enter hell." Woman is a gentle creature. Pride is in sharp contrast with the softness of a woman. So the good wife does not like to have a pompous husband.
Unfortunately, in everyday life often happens that many husbands could feel everything. So he did not want to assume and do not want to remember the services of a wife at all. Even he did not want to hear the words of his wife. Remember that the child was born because the services patience of wives. Patient in containing over nine months and patient in nursing for two years. Indeed many of the wives who suffer because of arrogant behavior of a husband.
The Prophet. is an example of a good husband. None of the attitude-his wife is unknown. The Prophet is very open to his wives. If you want to travel with one of his wives, the Prophet held the draw, so as not to cause jealousy from others. When the Prophet wanted to come to one of his wives, he had permission to others. Notice how the prophet is very open in dealing with the wives. No one from those who feel didzalimi. No one from the wife who feels excluded.
Now many instances the husband to cover up his actions outside the home. He did not want to come clean to his wife. When asked the answer was always floating about. Either there is a meeting, or business meetings and so forth. Though not the case. Or he did not come clean about his income, or do not want to explain to any spending money. This attitude was very unpopular women. Many of the wives whose husbands are tortured because the attitude is so closed.
Every woman is longing for a husband who has the establishment. Not a fickle husband. But not a dictator. Firmly in the sense of attitude and have a clear reason in making decisions. But at the same time he was consulted, and then determine what actions to take with confidence. This is one meaning of the word of God qawwam: alan qawwamuun arrijaalu Nisa '(An Nisa': 34).
Each of the women longed for a husband who has a clear vision of life. That life is created not merely to live. But there are noble goals. In the opening surah An Nisa ': 1 God Almighty. He will say: "O mankind, fear your Lord who created you from a single self, and from it God created his wife, and God hath dispersed than both men and women that much. And fear Allah, that the (use) his name you ask one another mutually, and (guard) silaturrahim relationship. Verily, Allah always watches over you ". In this verse Allah clearly explains that the goal of married life is to fear Allah. Piety in the sense meant to obey Him. What does God forbid actually shunned. And what God is obeyed.
But a lot happens now, is that many of the men or their husband to cover up the disobedience. The wife is not considered important. Sin by sin done outside the home with no fear of God. Remember that every sin there must be compensation. If you are not sure in the next world. It's not a few households that were destroyed because of the courage of the husband's sin. Yet in the Prophet's marriage problems. said: "Marriage is half of religion, therefore fear the remaining half."
In a memoir it is said that woman was created from a crooked rib. This suggests that the nature of women is not the same as the nature of men. Hence the Prophet. explained that if women are forced to become like men Tulung ribs will be broken. And breakage means talaknya. From this it appears that women have a nature like is always protected. Not treated roughly. So God commanded the husbands in particular to address the wives with gentleness: Wa'aasyiruuhunna bil ma'ruuf (And sikapilah wives with good treatment) An Nisa: 19. Notice that this verse describes the attitude of a good husband is not that being rude, but a soft and protecting his wife.
Many of the husbands who considers his wife as a cash cow. He slaughtered and abused at will. Without the slightest mercy. Just because a stronger body and struck his wife at will. Remember that the wives are also human. God's creation. To the animals we have compassion, especially to humans. The Prophet once described someone who is in hell because menyikas a cat, let alone torture a human being independent.
Arrogant is the nature of Satan. Satan is God's curse for his arrogance. Minal wakaana wastakbara Abaa kaafiriin (Al-Baqarah: 34). No one has the right mahlukpun proud, because pride is just right priogatif God. Allah says in the hadeeth Qurdsi: "Pride is selendangku, who compete with me, will I enter hell." Woman is a gentle creature. Pride is in sharp contrast with the softness of a woman. So the good wife does not like to have a pompous husband.
Unfortunately, in everyday life often happens that many husbands could feel everything. So he did not want to assume and do not want to remember the services of a wife at all. Even he did not want to hear the words of his wife. Remember that the child was born because the services patience of wives. Patient in containing over nine months and patient in nursing for two years. Indeed many of the wives who suffer because of arrogant behavior of a husband.
The Prophet. is an example of a good husband. None of the attitude-his wife is unknown. The Prophet is very open to his wives. If you want to travel with one of his wives, the Prophet held the draw, so as not to cause jealousy from others. When the Prophet wanted to come to one of his wives, he had permission to others. Notice how the prophet is very open in dealing with the wives. No one from those who feel didzalimi. No one from the wife who feels excluded.
Now many instances the husband to cover up his actions outside the home. He did not want to come clean to his wife. When asked the answer was always floating about. Either there is a meeting, or business meetings and so forth. Though not the case. Or he did not come clean about his income, or do not want to explain to any spending money. This attitude was very unpopular women. Many of the wives whose husbands are tortured because the attitude is so closed.
Every woman is longing for a husband who has the establishment. Not a fickle husband. But not a dictator. Firmly in the sense of attitude and have a clear reason in making decisions. But at the same time he was consulted, and then determine what actions to take with confidence. This is one meaning of the word of God qawwam: alan qawwamuun arrijaalu Nisa '(An Nisa': 34).
Many events of wives tortured by her deceitful husband. Do not want to be honest for his actions. Remember as smart-clever squirrel jump will surely fall to the ground. Lie is the attitude that God hates the most. Even the Prophet think lying is the attitude of the people who do not believe. In a hadith the Prophet was asked: it yakdzibul believers (if there is a Muslim lie?) The Prophet said: Laa (no). This suggests that a lie is the attitude of doing as opposed to the faith itself.
It's not a few households that disbanded because the husbands lie. Remember that the wives do not just need money and the luxuries of the world. Lenbih Rather than that he wants to be appreciated. Lies have destroyed the dignity of a wife. Because many of the wives who are ready to divorce because it is not able to live with the Sumai liar.
The wife wants a husband who brave, not a whiny husband. True Abu Bakr Siddiq is an example of a husband who is always crying. But he was not crying because sissy but because the touch of the verses of the Qur'an. But Abu Bakr in the attitude of everyday life far from being maudlin. Abu Bakar is very brave and courageous. See his attitude when facing the dissidents (murtaddin), Abu Bakr is very tough and not at all afraid.
Cenging husband who tends to appear in front of the wife is not completely convincing. The wife likes her husband who was always handsome, but not arrogant. Heroic in the sense of enthusiasm and tireless. More than that resilient in the face of many trials of life.
In a prayer, the Prophet. sought refuge from cowardice (a'uudzubika minal jubn), why? For cowardice prevents many good sources. Many of the wives who restrained his desire for her husband's cowardice. Many wives are tortured because her husband did not dare to solve the problems faced. The Prophet. famous daredevil. Every prophet has always dibarisan battle at the front. Katika a scary voice in the city of Medina, the Prophet. is the first kaluar and went to the sound.
The husband and wife is not like a coward. They like the brave husband. Because life is very demanding challenge of courage. But not daring, bold but with full consideration.
Among the Prophet's prayer. God is asking perlindingan of lazy attitude: Allahumma inni a'uudzubika minal 'wal ajizi KASAL, said KASAL means lazy. Lazy has made a person is not productive. Many of the sources of fortune that was closed due to laziness of a husband. Lazy often make household became narrow and pinched. The wife really does not like a lazy husband. Because its presence in the home rather than solve the problem but adds to problems. Often a colored domestic chaos because of a lazy husband.
Educating children is not just the responsibility of a wife but more than that the responsibilities of a husband. Note the letters Luqman, there we find a message named Luqman's father, to his son. This suggests that a father should determine the child's way of life compass. The Prophet. Is an example of a true father. His attention to his grandson Hasan Husayn is an obvious example, how he is very dear to his son. Even the ever lingering in prostration, because his grandson was playing around on his back.
Now we see a lot of very cool on the child's father. He thought that raising children is the work of his wife. Attitudes like this is very unpopular among women.
Every human being has the feeling of wanting to respect his opinion. So also a wife. Many of the wives tormented because of his husband who is always self-righteous. Umar therefore better to remain silent when his wife spoke. This is an example worthy of emulating. Umar thought that was the right wife uneg-unegnya reveal the husband. Because only the husband she found a spot off his chest. Because of that a husband should always roomy chest. There is no means to feel victorious in front of his wife. Because of this attitude is the best to give in and act with great fatherly attention. For when his nagging wife he needed a fatherly manner of a husband. There pepetah say: be water when one of them into the fire.
Many wives feel lonely when her husband is gone or outdoors. The best husband is always contacted his wife. Whether premises how to send sms or call him. Remember that many small problems become big just because of miscommunication. Because it is often berkomukasi is very decisive in domestic happiness.
Many of the wives who feel annoyed because it was never contacted by her husband when outdoors. So that he feels neglected or unneeded. The wife really likes to husbands who always contacted even if just to ask what he was doing.
The wife really likes when her husband was always dressed neatly. Prophet is an example of a husband who is always neat and fragrant. Because it is the wife always liked and proud of the Prophet. Remember that Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. So neatness part of belief. When a husband and wife proud neat because people will surely impress that the wife take care of it. Conversely when the husband is not neat and not fragrant, people will impress that he was not taken care of by his wife. Because it is for wives is a mirror of neatness and personal kaharuman wife. It was very insulted and tormented by his wife, when she saw her husband carelessly in appearance and spread the bad shoulder. Allah knows best.
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